Confessions Of A Bon Jovi Fan

Yes.

The submission box is still open.

We will resume making submissions this week. Maybe not as frequently as before but we will continue as we received so much positive feedback.

Our apologies to those people who have been still sending submissions. Yours will be first in line.

CONFESSIONSOFABONJOVIFAN.TUMBLR.COM

We understand that for some people it is hard to just scroll past what they don’t want to read. We also understand some people need to get out their feelings.

We would absolutely, 100% rather post the happy, happy posts but as many of you have shared with us, that is not a true picture of what people are actually thinking and feeling. If we don’t make their submissions it’s like we’re negating their feelings. Telling them “no you shouldn’t feel that way.” 

(throws rainbows and bunnies and hearts in the air.)

The majority of the people here get their feelings out and move on. Anyone who denies feeling not even a moment of pain, animosity or disenheartment over this whole debacle is lying. It’s true we must keep the faith and support our band and all it’s members but people are allowed to have negative feelings as well as positive ones. We are allowed to question the motivations and actions of the members if only to try and find understanding in what has happened here. 

We believe that everyone here loves this band. People would not take the time to blog about them or so passionately feel all the emotions that are represented in these submissions.

As for the drama that has recently played out on here between us and a couple of bloggers, we apologize. Maybe we should have said nothing and allowed them to say nasty things about us. Afterall, it is only a blog and from the support we have received from many of you, we realize not everyone feels the way they did. 

Thanks for your support.

CONFESSIONSOFABONJOVIFAN.TUMBLR.COM

bonjoviruinedmylife:

confessionsofabonjovifan:

Let us get this right.
You can accuse us of the decimation of the fandom. Call us the “root of all the problems” here and accuse us personally of causing fans to leave Tumblr or turn their back on the Bon Jovi Fandom and we are not supposed to respond or be “sensitive” and graciously thank you for what YOU consider “constructive criticism?”
Unbelievable.
BTW we are well aware and fine with people not liking our blog. Attacking it and us is a whole other story. 

I told you I would leave. IDK what more you want.

As we said before. We were unaware of your existence before you started accusing us of being “one of the roots of the problem in the Bon Jovi Fandom” on one of our own posts. If you had said it on your own post we would probably never even have addressed it. We of all bloggers here believe you are entitled to your own opinion so don’t delete your blog on our part. We get it. You don’t like our blog. We’re okay with that. Maybe we don’t like your blog, so we can just agree to avoid one another.
Reading back in your blog we see that you’ve had many issues already with feeling like you don’t fit in in here. Not sure what that is all about, or who you felt was bullying you but our experience here is that if you privately try to discuss issues and differences of opinions with bloggers, instead of publicly posting sarcastic hits at them, (calling most of the fandom shit is probably not a good start), you will get a better result. You probably don’t care for advice from us but there it is.
And just a clarification, we never claimed you were not a Bon Jovi Fan as you suggested. If you go to the trouble to make a Bon Jovi Blog you are obviously a fan. Our wording was “what kind of a Bon Jovi Fan you are.” Very different when you think about it. 
Anyway, as we said, please don’t delete your blog because of us. We will not bother you and we hope the feeling is mutual. We were only responding to your “first shots fired.” 
However, if you still want to delete it to become some martyr for the cause of making us look bad that is your perogative. 

bonjoviruinedmylife:

confessionsofabonjovifan:

Let us get this right.

You can accuse us of the decimation of the fandom. Call us the “root of all the problems” here and accuse us personally of causing fans to leave Tumblr or turn their back on the Bon Jovi Fandom and we are not supposed to respond or be “sensitive” and graciously thank you for what YOU consider “constructive criticism?”

Unbelievable.

BTW we are well aware and fine with people not liking our blog. Attacking it and us is a whole other story. 

I told you I would leave. IDK what more you want.

As we said before. We were unaware of your existence before you started accusing us of being “one of the roots of the problem in the Bon Jovi Fandom” on one of our own posts. If you had said it on your own post we would probably never even have addressed it. We of all bloggers here believe you are entitled to your own opinion so don’t delete your blog on our part. We get it. You don’t like our blog. We’re okay with that. Maybe we don’t like your blog, so we can just agree to avoid one another.

Reading back in your blog we see that you’ve had many issues already with feeling like you don’t fit in in here. Not sure what that is all about, or who you felt was bullying you but our experience here is that if you privately try to discuss issues and differences of opinions with bloggers, instead of publicly posting sarcastic hits at them, (calling most of the fandom shit is probably not a good start), you will get a better result. You probably don’t care for advice from us but there it is.

And just a clarification, we never claimed you were not a Bon Jovi Fan as you suggested. If you go to the trouble to make a Bon Jovi Blog you are obviously a fan. Our wording was “what kind of a Bon Jovi Fan you are.” Very different when you think about it. 

Anyway, as we said, please don’t delete your blog because of us. We will not bother you and we hope the feeling is mutual. We were only responding to your “first shots fired.” 

However, if you still want to delete it to become some martyr for the cause of making us look bad that is your perogative. 

"People can say what they really think without being literally torn apart by other fans."

(With the exception of US.)

 

 

Let us get this right.
You can accuse us of the decimation of the fandom. Call us the “root of all the problems” here and accuse us personally of causing fans to leave Tumblr or turn their back on the Bon Jovi Fandom and we are not supposed to respond or be “sensitive” and graciously thank you for what YOU consider “constructive criticism?”
Unbelievable.
BTW we are well aware and fine with people not liking our blog. Attacking it and us is a whole other story. 

Let us get this right.

You can accuse us of the decimation of the fandom. Call us the “root of all the problems” here and accuse us personally of causing fans to leave Tumblr or turn their back on the Bon Jovi Fandom and we are not supposed to respond or be “sensitive” and graciously thank you for what YOU consider “constructive criticism?”

Unbelievable.

BTW we are well aware and fine with people not liking our blog. Attacking it and us is a whole other story. 

Submissions are just opinions. 

Maybe not yours but someone else’s. 

People should have a safe place to say what they feel. Safe from people who will attack them on a personal level.

Maybe we are needed more than we thought.

richiesamboranews:

bonjoviruinedmylife:

confessionsofabonjovifan:

Confessionsofabonjovifan.tumblr.com

Good. This is one of the roots of the problem in the Bon Jovi fandom on tumblr.

I agree that the confessions tumblr is negative and is a major factor in stirring up trouble in the fandom. Some fans turned their backs on the fandom on tumblr because the tags were flooded with hate and negativity from anonymous cowards. I also feel like the person(s) in charge of
confessionsofabonjovifan
carry some of the blame, for posting these confessions that went beyond “controversial” to just plain hateful. It enabled childish and nasty behaviour instead of trying to stop it and to set some necessary boundaries.

Of course you are entitled to your opinion and since you clearly do not understand how a “confessions blog” works it seems like a waste of time to try and explain again why we chose to post what you feel to be offensive submissions.
However, this is not the first time you have made rude comments about our blog and we find that interesting considering we have had negative submissions about “your blog” and it’s content. Unlike you, we have chosen to not post them, as we have taken a stand against posting negativity against fellow bloggers. A kindness you obviously don’t afford others.
Considering you keep accusing other bloggers of being negative, hateful and immature you may want to look in the mirror.

richiesamboranews:

bonjoviruinedmylife:

confessionsofabonjovifan:

Confessionsofabonjovifan.tumblr.com

Good. This is one of the roots of the problem in the Bon Jovi fandom on tumblr.

I agree that the confessions tumblr is negative and is a major factor in stirring up trouble in the fandom. Some fans turned their backs on the fandom on tumblr because the tags were flooded with hate and negativity from anonymous cowards. I also feel like the person(s) in charge of
confessionsofabonjovifan
carry some of the blame, for posting these confessions that went beyond “controversial” to just plain hateful. It enabled childish and nasty behaviour instead of trying to stop it and to set some necessary boundaries.

Of course you are entitled to your opinion and since you clearly do not understand how a “confessions blog” works it seems like a waste of time to try and explain again why we chose to post what you feel to be offensive submissions.

However, this is not the first time you have made rude comments about our blog and we find that interesting considering we have had negative submissions about “your blog” and it’s content. Unlike you, we have chosen to not post them, as we have taken a stand against posting negativity against fellow bloggers. A kindness you obviously don’t afford others.

Considering you keep accusing other bloggers of being negative, hateful and immature you may want to look in the mirror.

So we say we are thinking of going on hiatus and we gain 23 followers.
Thanks for the follow.

So we say we are thinking of going on hiatus and we gain 23 followers.

Thanks for the follow.

We are still considering what direction we will take if we continue on with this blog.

Thanks for your constructive input. 

bonjoviruinedmylife:

confessionsofabonjovifan:

Confessionsofabonjovifan.tumblr.com

Good. This is one of the roots of the problem in the Bon Jovi fandom on tumblr.

We had no idea who this blogger was but after checking out her superior blog, that makes a meaningful contribution to the fandom, we no longer feel hurt by her opinion.
Your tags,comments and blog description shows exactly who you are as a “fan.”
"I just really like Bon Jovi. Let’s obsess together. Sorry in advance if I mention Richie Sambora’s dick."

bonjoviruinedmylife:

confessionsofabonjovifan:

Confessionsofabonjovifan.tumblr.com

Good. This is one of the roots of the problem in the Bon Jovi fandom on tumblr.

We had no idea who this blogger was but after checking out her superior blog, that makes a meaningful contribution to the fandom, we no longer feel hurt by her opinion.

Your tags,comments and blog description shows exactly who you are as a “fan.”

"I just really like Bon Jovi. Let’s obsess together. Sorry in advance if I mention Richie Sambora’s dick."

"You can post this as a confession if you wish too. Of course we care. You are a part of the BonJoviFamily, you are one of us!!!. You help people voice their opinions. The anger and the hurt they go through. You actually help them let it out. If people don’t understand that they’re not your opinions its their problem not yours. You’ve made it perfectly clear they’re not your views unless you state them as your views. Don’t leave. Thank you for being here for us all. We love your blog.” Xoxoxo 
— junkmonsters (Submitted by)

Thank you so much.

"You can post this as a confession if you wish too. 

Of course we care. You are a part of the BonJoviFamily, you are one of us!!!. You help people voice their opinions. The anger and the hurt they go through. You actually help them let it out. 

If people don’t understand that they’re not your opinions its their problem not yours. You’ve made it perfectly clear they’re not your views unless you state them as your views. 

Don’t leave. Thank you for being here for us all. We love your blog.” Xoxoxo 

— junkmonsters (Submitted by)
Thank you so much.
 ”He’s worked harder than most people would ever even think about working. He’s more than earned everything he has, and if he wants to spend it on a football team, who are we to judge? We all spend ridiculous amounts of money on a band. I don’t see much difference.”

 ”He’s worked harder than most people would ever even think about working. He’s more than earned everything he has, and if he wants to spend it on a football team, who are we to judge? We all spend ridiculous amounts of money on a band. I don’t see much difference.”